This is a guest post by our top contributing author and travel blogger Ryan Biddulph. He is the founder of Blogging From Paradise, his course 11 Fundamentals of Successful Blogging and the author of more than 126 eBooks.
12 years ago as a new blogger my mind seem filled with fear, poverty, loss and scarcity.
Birds of a feather flock together. I picked blogging buddies whose minds seem filled with fear, poverty, loss and scarcity. We bonded nicely. We all felt comfortable in our fear zone. Of course, we all struggled and failed mightily because one never learns how to succeed online by surrounding oneself with fear, struggle and failure.
I became disgusted with failing. I faced, felt and released fears slowly, steadily and progressively over my 12 year blogging career. Naturally, save a few bloggers – who chose to grow with me – I am no longer blogging buddies with any of these folks. I vibe mainly from love, not fear, these days. I surround myself only with bloggers who vibe:
- love
- generosity
- abundance
- trust
- patience
- persistence
But I had to routinely take the freeing but uncomfortable step of shedding fear-dominated blogging buddies to move higher in blogging circles. Interacting with scared, pained, suffering bloggers who old blogger, scared, pained, suffering me resonated with felt awkward, unpleasant and flat out uncomfortable. Former fans and dear blogging buddies became vicious critics.
Being jealous with fear turns loyal friends into envious beasts. I dropped these tortured souls like a hot potato because I faced, felt and released fear-based jealousy and no longer vibed with envious bloggers.
I also let go blogging buddies who complained about not having enough money to purchase a $15 eBook. One blogger requested a payment plan of two separate $7 payments when I knew I had to let her go in order to move higher in blogging circles.
I have compassion for suffering bloggers anchored down by illusory fears but it is not my job to feed their fears; doing so prolongs their suffering. My best course of action is to befriend bloggers who choose to evolve as I evolve and to let go every other blogger.
Clinging to fear-based bloggers perpetuates your:
- blogging fears
- blogging struggles
- blogging failures
because where your attention and energy goes, grows. Give your attention to fear. Observe fear-filled results.
Letting go fear-based bloggers:
- accelerates your success
- amplifies you freedom
- allows loving, abundant, compassionate, successful pro bloggers into your blogger buddy network
But letting go former blogging buddies who refuse to face their fears feels awkward, uncomfortable and quite unpleasant sometimes. Feel your fears manifest as their fears. Feel guilt. Feel shame. Feel any fear arising in your being. Let them go.
Bloggers you officially let go 5 or 10 years ago may message you out of the blue from an awkward, uncomfortable energy, feigning familiarity, asking for favors or special pricing or some benefit based on their fears. But the days of your resonance ended 5-10 years ago. Either do not respond or pleasantly decline because where your attention and energy goes, grows.
Even though fear-based bloggers:
- take things personally
- act from deep, unhealthy attachments
- create financial struggles by continuing to charge woefully low rates
your release has nothing to do with the individuals. I observe these bloggers with the honest admission of how I acted the same exact way when I was a scared, newbie blogger anchored in scarcity and loss back in 2008. But I paid my fear tax by facing my fears to rid myself of these poisonous energies. Fear-based bloggers need to pay the same tax to move higher in blogging circles, too. Every blogger needs to pay their dues to be successful. Every human being needs to take complete personal responsibility for their thoughts, feelings, actions and results in order to be free.
Let go your fears.
Let go attachments to fear-dominated bloggers. Accelerate your blogging success but more importantly, cultivate a greater peace of mind and sense of freedom in all you do online and offline.
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